When Sh*t Hits the Fan...

...Where does happiness and fulfillment go?

Do happiness and fulfillment mean no difficult feelings, no struggles, and no tragedies?

Well, no.

Genuine fulfillement is being able to be content and at peace throughout the inevitable painful experiences of human life.

So, when the sh*t hits the fan, what can we do?

1. In the middle of the crisis, using our immediate resources:

  • Focusing on self-care by sleeping as much as the crisis allows, eating the healthiest food possible, exercising regulalry, and getting enough fresh air.
  • Asking for support. In time of hardship, it's time to let go of shame for asking for help. We all need support at times and it's unreasonable not to ask for help when needed. A crisis lasts longer without support. We'll give back to others in need later, when we'll be in the position to do so.
  • Depending on the severity of the crisis, considering professional support.

2. When the dust has settled, making a compassionate self-assessment:

  • "What can I learn from this?"
  • "Did I have adequate reserves of physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual energy to face the crisis?"
  • "Did I reach out for support? Did I immediately know who to call? Did I allow myself to get help?"

3. Going forward, a little planning goes a long way:

  • What can I do right now to be better prepared for the next bad day, stressful circumstance, or even tragedy?
  • How can I strengthen my self-care regimen so that I can face the next difficulty with more resources and confidence?
  • How can I expand my network of support? Whom can I offer support at this time?

When everything is fine, committing to a holistic self care regimen can feel like too much work and unnecessary. Problem is, difficulties will happen. Actually, most of us deal with some level of stress on a daily basis. Nurturing a solid self care regimen as well as a reliable network of support are a crucial investment for our happiness and fulfillment in the present and the future.

Trusting that we can face any crisis because we have the physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual and relational resources to do so is incredibly freeing.

This is essential to living happy and fulfilled, regardless of circumstances.