Feeling Love vs Doing Love

Isn't falling in love one of the most delicious human experiences?

Staying in love over the years is not bad either!

One of the most valuable ah ah moments of my love life happened when I learned the difference between experiencing love as a feeling versus understanding love as an action.

Love as a feeling comes and goes, as most feelings do. Given the fleeting nature of feelings, it's risky to rely on feelings of love to keep a relationship going in the long-term. 

What is more likely to sustain a happy and healthy relationship is committing to the consistent effort of doing love. We can't choose to feel loving feelings all the time, but we can choose to do love, everyday, day after day, regardless of the intensity of our feelings in the moment. This is unconditional love.

When we feel love, we have chemistry. When we do love, we are affectionate.

When we feel love, we admire. When we do love, we appreciate.

When we feel love, we make assumptions. When we do love, we pay attention.

When we feel love, we have expectations. When we do love, we accept.

When we feel love, we try to control. When we do love, we allow.