From Resolution to Action - Managing Failure

We've been inspired by our long-term vision...

We've designed a solid plan of action...

We've gotten some support to help us stay on track...

And yet, we still fall off the wagon!

And it's normal. Working on a new challenge will involve a few cycles of trial/error and of success/failure. Blame it on that pesky homeostasis.

What's going to make a difference is how we respond to failure.

1. Responding at the cognitive level:

Let's go back to our plan and assess it. Would starting our new resolution in the spring or summer work better than in winter? Would there be a more suitable day/time to implement our new activity? Would we need additional support?

2. Responding at the emotional level:

The antidote to judgment is compassion, and it's no different when dealing with self-judgment. Showering ourselves with self-compassion is the most effective way to quiet down our inner critic when it's having a blast in our time of failure.

3. Responding at the physical level:

Bouncing back into action immediately is essential because the longer we wait, the harder it is to get back on track. So we pick ourselves up, we dust ourselves off, and we start again.

Journaling Questions:

  • What's my usual response to failing? How does it impact my progress?
  • How do I feel physically and emotionally when I experience failure?
  • If I fell off the wagon, what happened? Was it an issue of Value? Logisitcs? Support?
  • What changes do I need to make to my initial plan before I start again?
  • How can I become more compassionate to myself?

From Resolution to Action: